Well, hello there old friends! I'm sorry I haven't had much to post as of late; I blame it on a couple of things - my increased self esteem has changed my dating pool and generally I seem to date a higher caliber of men. Some I click with...some I don't. And it's perfectly acceptable to simply say "thanks, no thanks" and walk away. I also really am quite exhausted of shitty dates. So I'd rather just spend time with friends.
It's been awhile since I've been rejected for the things I've been rejected for the in past, namely being fat, but tonight has reached an all time interesting point.
Several months ago (I'm thinking around 4 months or so), I had connected with a gentleman on a dating site. We exchanged emails, texts, and talked on the phone a few times. We decided that we'd like to have an actual date.
I had expressed a delight in my new found excitement in working out and one day, when I was feeling particularly confident, I sent a snap of me after a workout. Granted, I'm no skinny-minny, but I'm not ridiculous. I'm attractive enough.
Apparently not. He disappeared. It was nothing but silence. For about a week, I attempted to text him a few times as I did not get any kind of explanation and I thought we were going on a date. I heard nothing.
I'm sure I made a parting shot of something about being irritated that he just disappeared, but after that, I erased his number and haven't thought of him since.
Until tonight. I got text. Got a lot of text. And even a couple of phone calls.
I won't go into the entire dialogue of the conversation, but it was pretty polarized between "I'm sorry-- will you go out with me" to "you're fat/mean/whatever". But what probably struck me as the most odd...
"Ur fuckin nuts."
Why do people resort to the "you're crazy" type of comment when they don't elicit the response they want? And why is it crazy for me to say "thanks, no thanks" after four months of silence after being stood up? I'd say, pal, if anything, it's completely the other way around.
I really can only imagine that this guy was drunk texting/dialing and upset over some other woman. He probably assumed that since I'm a larger woman, I would go for him without question. I can pretty much confirm that that is what he thought after he said "You won't go out with me? What, have you got any other options?"
Yes, I have other options. I, in fact, do have several men interested in me. I also really enjoy the company of some dear friends. And the weekend you have asked me out, I will be on vacation, spending time with family. So, yes, man, I have other options. And even if none of those things were available, I actually really enjoy spending time with myself. Some of the best dates I've been on have been with myself. And I make better company than you.
As for me being mean. Yes. I am a jerk. When you told me I was enormous, I asked you if that was necessary and whether or not you were 12. I am a jerk. Completely and totally.
"Id date U"
Yeah, well, I wouldn't date you. See ya.
